- Grue : /h/slackernews
- 70
- 39
Hello, long term lurker, first time poster. I have to tell someone this because it's been eating at me and I can't tell anyone else about in real life, not even my best friend.
About two years ago, I was dating this guy, I'm gonna call Shane for simplicity. Shane was 26 and really sweet, one of the nicest guys I have ever dated. There was a lot to like about him (good looking, in shape, had the same style of humor and hobbies as me, a great career, his own place in a nice city, etc) and I really, truly, loved him at one point. However, there was one thing I did not like about him and that was his consumption of porn. Even when I asked him to stop watching porn, he couldn't stop for more than a few days before he was back at it again. He would do it because he claimed he needed it to relax and go to sleep. He wouldn't watch porn whenever I visited him, but whenever I wasn't there, he would. I could always tell when he was watching porn because he would, out of the blue, start sending me a ton of super sexual text messages, and wouldn't stop until he came. He would spend hours trying to find the "perfect" video to get off to. His porn addiction was really bad.
Anyway, his sexual appetite was not just limited to porn, he wanted to have s*x and do sexual stuff all the time whenever we were together. I didn't mind that he wanted to have s*x a lot, especially since he was good at making sure my own needs were met (lol) but what annoyed me was him always wanting to try new kinky stuff. Some stuff I agreed to, like wearing a choker or thigh high heels, but other stuff I refused, like him wanting me to put anything in my butt. If I had been wiser to what I know now, I would have dumped him right when I realized he was addicted to porn. Unfortunately, at the time, I thought all guys watched a ton of porn and that this was "normal". Besides, I really cared for him and loved him at the time, so I mostly let his pestering slide. Besides, it was easy to forgive and forget because once I said "no", he would drop it and wouldn't ask again until a week or so later.
One day, he asked me again if he could do butt related stuff, to which I again said no. This time, instead of just dropping it, he persisted and tried to convince me. He showed me articles from real women that claim to love anal s*x. He showed me porn links of women who were loving it, he promised me he would go slow, be gentle, and that we could work our way up to it with buttplugs. I was disgusted with this and annoyed that he wouldn't drop the subject, so I told him I'd agree to have anal s*x but only if he let me peg him first. I figured he would say no, but he said alright, he would let me peg him. He then dropped the subject.
I thought he was only joking and forgot all about it, until two weeks or so later when I went to his house, he showed me that he had bought a harness and dildo for pegging. I was horrified and told him I didn't think he was serious. But he was. He was dead serious, and worse, he looked excited. I remember telling him, "Shane, I'm not fricking you in the butt." and him looking hurt. He said that he thought I was serious when I offered to peg him, and he was willing to be vulnerable with me in order to prove how much he trusted me. He said he wouldn't even expect me to let him frick me in the butt if I pegged him.
To make a long story short, he did convince me to peg him. I did not want to do it, but a part of me hoped that he would see that it was painful and then he wouldn't want to pursue it anymore. Unfortunately, I hadn't known it at the time, but Shane had been doing anal play on himself with toys long before we had started dating, so basically this was not at all painful for him, and he was really into it.
Me? I was so turned off. I had never understood what people meant when they said their partner did something that gave them the "ick" and then suddenly they fell completely out of love with them. That sounded hard to believe; how could anyone simply cease to stop loving someone instantly over something relatively minor? And yet that is exactly what happened to me. As I watched his face and listened to him getting off to this, something in me snapped, and I instantly found him repulsive. I suddenly no longer had any feelings for him and made up my mind right then and there to dump him later.
I don't know how long I fricked Shane in his butt, maybe 10 minutes? But I had to stop, not only because it was so cringe and such a turn off, but because fricking someone with a strap on is actually a lot of work, especially when you're not used to it. I made some excuse to Shane in order to go home. I lied to him when he texted me asking if I liked it. I should have been honest and said "No, Shane, you looked stupid, and I felt disgusted." but I didn't want to be mean. Even though I was no longer in love with him anymore, I felt it would be too cruel to shame a man when it comes to s*x. They're very sensitive about that stuff.
Over the next couple of weeks, things were awkward, I kept making excuses to stay busy and distant. Finally, I couldn't take it anymore and bluntly dumped him via text. I made a dumb excuse about me having too much going on in my life and that I needed to work on me. He was absolutely heart broken and tried several times for months to win me back, even buying me lots of gifts and writing me long love letters. He even stopped watching porn for 3 whole weeks and said he'd give it up for good. I felt kind of bad but every time I'd start to feel bad, I'd have that image of him laying back on the bed, being penetrated by me, and I would instantly feel nothing but contempt.
Why am I sharing this with rDrama? Because, everyone loved Shane and to this day people don't understand why I broke up with him. Everyone thought he was perfect for me, that he was a great catch and would have made the perfect husband. I get annoyed whenever the subject comes up, because I can't be honest. I can't say "Shane was a disgusting porn addict!" or "I fricked Shane in his hairy butthole and he looked so emasculated in that position!". I have to give some half-butt excuse that we had "different life goals" or whatever. People will then pester me and ask me why it couldn't have worked out. Part of me doesn't want to be honest with them because it's embarrassing, but the other part of me worries if some of my friends won't try to convince me that being into porn and anal s*x is good, actually, and that I should stop being a prude.
The other reason I'm posting this is because I haven't found another guy that was as good as Shane. Every guy I've dated since Shane has been meh. It makes me angry that Shane was perfect in just about every way, except his porn habits. Why did he have to be such a freak? We could be married by now if he hadn't been such a coomer.
Anyway, that's my vent. I hope this can serve as a warning to other women, if your boyfriend says he wants to be pegged, DO NOT ACCEPT THE OFFER! YOU WILL NEVER LOOK AT HIM THE SAME WAY!
- 14
- 26
Most Based Comments
Basedness: 🔥🔥🔘🔘🔘
YTJ. Not for breaking up with your ex. For being transphobic towards him, saying that it's "wrong" to be trans and refusing to call him by his proper pronouns. There's nothing wrong with dating preferences, but your buttholeness has nothing to do with that. Please, respect people for who they are. (8)
Basedness: 🔥🔥🔘🔘🔘
Thinking trans is wrong in general, not cool.Not wanting to date a trans person, totally okay. (10)
How is it not cool when they are trying to change who they are and not accepting themselves (-4)
Basedness: 🔥🔥🔘🔘🔘
You are entitled to pick a partner of your choice and if she wasn't up front about the trans thing from the beginning then you have every right to break it off (25)
Angriest Comments
Angriness: 😡😡😡😡😡
Angriness: 😡😡😡😡😡
Exactly. Not being attracted to men and therefore not wanting to date a trans man isn't awful. Sadly there are a ton of people and places that will totally villanize you for this, but that by itself isn't wrong. Or it shouldn't be. But going on about how you're not religious but it is wrong and some (totally made up) study about one person who supposedly tried to live as a man and killed themselves, that makes you an butthole. Even if we skip the term transphobe, you're still an butt. (11)
Angriness: 😡😡😡😡😡
It's not made up, it happened, Nora Vincent. He quoted it poorly, but she went undercover as man about as well as one can, the experience left her so depressed she spiraled pretty hard and ended her life. (3)
Biggest Lolcow: /u/onewhokills
Score: 🐮🐮🐮🐮🐮(+6🐮)
Number of comments: 42
Average angriness: 🔘🔘🔘🔘🔘
Maximum angriness: 😡😡😡😡😡
Minimum angriness: 🔘🔘🔘🔘🔘
NEW: Subscribe to /h/miners to see untapped drama veins, ripe for mining!
autodrama: automating away the jobs of dramautists. Ping HeyMoon if there are any problems or you have a suggestion
- 104
- 128
Cute pictures of her new velvet hippo Hickory:
Some of the typical comments:
Hickory is going to need lots of tennis balls!! I love him so much. Completely adorable! 🧡💙
⠀
He's beautiful I love him 🥰❤️ congratulations!
⠀
Honey still seems displeased.
Displeased? She looks like she's completely disassociated. Unable to comprehend the horror of the situation.
Only 3 hours later, disaster strikes!
HAHAHAHAHAHAHA
He's NOT a bad boy he's so sweet he only chewed on my dog's head a little bit
GOOD idea, there's too many toddlers in the world anyway
I can't be the only one who finds the juxtaposition funny between the sparkly hearts and the advice on how to stop your dogs eating each other
Bonus Post
- 9
- 10
I'm to the point at which I truly believe that anyone who puts on a uniform and coerces others is straight-up lost.
If they had a conscience, they'd be doing other work.
WILL BE WILD
Can you imagine how much salt and rage this is producing in the tds stage 12 segments? Trump campaigning right in the middle of the heart of darkness and getting massive ground level support. I can only grin at the mental images.
an event in new york. demonrats are finished
He said this last time too. He is not going to win new York lmao
Never say never.
He's never winning New York lmao.
Can't even win GA but he's totally going to win NY. Kek
So they'll call it for Biden when there's 0.6% of the vote in and not 0.5%?
i think you can call New York even with 0% counted
- 22
- 57
- 33
- 32
The problem with “Great Replacement Theory” is that it fails to address the foundational issue of low birth rates.
— Elon Musk (@elonmusk) April 28, 2024
Record low birth rates are leading to population collapse in Europe and even faster population collapse in most of Asia. Immigration is low in Asia, so there is no… https://t.co/ddGM5R6vWh
Sneed:
- 60
- 34
In this exchange, two guys go back and forth for about 5 days .
/u/CrustyForSkin posts in /r/Lacan, /r/therapists, /r/JoeRoegan
/u/Mynaa-Miesnowan posts in /r/Nietzsche, /r/Jung and /r/Awakened
- Arran : attention seeking NlGGER
- 19
- -5
The fricking cwowld metwl slid owor my skin like silk sliding dwown a fricking banyister. It dwoesn't take much pwessure wen u have a fricking sharp razwor. Bwood came pwouring immediatewy. That's a fricking gwood sign - the fricking deep cuts are fricking bwight white and take a fricking minyute two start bleeding. I am onye with the fricking pain because I deserve it fwor being worthless and a fricking piece of shit and a fricking bad perswon.
Am I bwoken that my mind cwonstantwy instwucts mwe two self-mutilate, b-word? It feels like there's a fricking gwoblin in my head (the Gwueswome Gwoblin) cwonstantwy egging mwe on two dwo the fricking nyeedfwl and start slicing. Can anyonye relate, b-word? I knyow I'm gwoing two dwo it again twomworwow and it's gwoing two be wose. The fricking cycle's begun again.
- 5
- 18
Imagine a woman dragging you from literal royalty to hawking f**king jellies and jams https://t.co/h2ulfFRd9o
— Oilfield Rando (@Oilfield_Rando) April 27, 2024
- 22
- 34
I'll start...
Night One: Abortion and Women's Rights
Key speakers include women activists from across the country fighting for reproductive health as well as victims that have been impacted by the loss of Roe v Wade
Keynote: Hilary Clinton Gretchen Whitmer
Night Two: Patriots (and Republicans) for Biden
Key speakers include conservative leaders, Constitutional scholars, military leaders, and former trump officials.
Keynote: Mitt Romney explaining that inflation is temporary, dictators are permanent. [Special appearance by Barack Obama who greets Romney as he leaves the stage]
Night Three: A tribute to Bernie (and economic progressivism)
Key speakers include AOC, Robert Reich, Union leaders, laborers, and individuals who received student debt relief. Possible cameo by Mark Cuban to point millionaires are also doing just fine.
Keynote: Bernie Sanders
Night Four: Where We've Been, Where We're Going
Key speakers: Members of the Kennedy family, Bill Clinton, Kamala Harris, Barack Obama Focus on Democratic party legacy, Coronavirus recovery, democracy and the rule of law.
Keynote/Nominee: Joe Biden
I can't stop laughing at how r-slurred this post is. Hilary as a keynote speaker. Bragging about inflation. An entire night dedicated to a tribute to Bernie. AOC as a keynote speaker. Mark Cuban to vouch for millionaires. And it has upvotes lmao.
- 31
- 65
The sick truth https://t.co/ctVXoxUVFu
— Alex Jones (@RealAlexJones) April 27, 2024
https://twitter.com/GarbageHuman23/status/1784362470561522145
- 106
- 143
Holy heck! He might be a security guard not sure but this filled me with so much joy that I can be running on this joy for a year.
The people laughing in the background
- CREAMY_DOG_ORGASM : ugly r-slurred cute twink cat i hope it dies
- 26
- 102
!animalposters I love how they can't tell the difference between a moving train and a TV.
Adorable little dumbfricks
- 35
- 89
Nichalas cruz shot up Parkland high school because he was a crazy man, and could have easily been stopped at any time, but how did he get so crazy? Let's find out!
4chan…does not have the answers. Let's not go to pol. It's a silly place
Nicholas Cruz was born to a drug-addicted alcoholic and suffered brain damage in the womb.
https://edition.cnn.com/2022/08/22/us/nikolas-cruz-trial-defense
His mother was a violent prostitute and crack whore and
https://www.jacksonville.com/story/news/crime/2018/09/05/cruz-biological-mother-s-past/10839405007/
he eventually got dumped in an orphanage
https://www.nbcnews.com/news/rcna44366
Her name was Brenda Woodward and she was the ugliest prostitute you've ever seen
His parents helped take care of her. Also he showed classic crack baby symptoms
https://cbs12.com/news/local/nikolas-cruz-defense-enters-its-2nd-week-of-testimony
She smoked crack while pregnant according to another whore who worked the same strip of road in kentucky
Although there's debate over whether he has fetal alcohol syndrome
https://www.cbsnews.com/miami/news/expert-questions-whether-school-shooters-mom-drank-heavily/
His adoptive mother was in the room when he was born
He reconnected with his crack whore mother months before her death
He phoned her from jail and she wanted nothing to do with him so that didn't last
Nicholas Cruz watched his step-father die of a heart attack at the age of five
He was an excitable boy
https://www.wptv.com/news/parkland-shooting/testimony-nikolas-cruzs-home-ruled-by-chaos
At age 9 he was chucking rocks at other children
https://edition.cnn.com/2018/02/25/us/nikolas-cruz-warning-signs
Police were called to his house 45 times
https://www.washingtontimes.com/news/2019/sep/13/book-review-why-meadow-died/
The FBI got a tip on him having guns, talking about wanting to shoot up a school, having a long history of violence and self-harm, and being a local menace to society but didn't follow protocol or act on it
https://www.nbcnews.com/news/ncna848681
They even admit it
https://www.fbi.gov/news/press-releases/fbi-statement-on-the-shooting-in-parkland-florida
Here's the official report
https://vault.fbi.gov/public-access-line-probe/public-access-line-probe-part-01/view
Basically they were more worried about dissidents than crimes because the FBI is a terrible organization run by terrible people.
They weren't the only ones ignoring the obvious threat
https://nypost.com/2019/09/09/why-the-system-failed-to-stop-nikolas-cruz-and-could-do-it-again/
The local sheriff departments got constant warnings
https://miamiherald.com/news/local/community/broward/article201684874.html
The middle school placed him in a special school for especially dangerous people, but that wasn't good enough for Broward county who moved him back to a regular school
They also classified his suicide attempt as “a minor disruption”
He got sent to a school for crazy people, started doing better, so naturally that meant it was alright to send him to a regular high school instead of keeping him in the controlled environment where he was doing well. I think dyslexia can be cured with beatings and even I see the problem here.
He was assigned to a controversial Broward county program
And transferred from schools like a hot potatoe
https://www.miamiherald.com/news/local/article201216104.html
His mother considered signing her parental rights away to the local zoo in the months leading up to her death
And then tried to get sent back to the school for crazy people
The school resource officer wanted to baker act him because he was drinking gasoline and torturing animals.
https://edition.cnn.com/2018/03/19/us/florida-school-shooting-cruz-psychiatric-records
The system failed him repeatedly. But redditors disagree because the system is perfect
According to the official report the school system and law enforcement failed at every step at every level
Political correctness interfered
He was a p-dophile!
Broward county school district had a policy of not calling the cops even when they really should have
https://armedcitizensnetwork.org/march-2020-book-review
Here's a shot by shot recounting of the shooting
Cruz's brother is dissapoint
He also got arrested for hanging around the school
https://edition.cnn.com/2018/03/28/us/zachary-cruz-bond-nikolas-brother-parkland
And then got robbed
https://news.yahoo.com/two-men-charged-exploiting-brother-162055449.html
Broward county school district tried to cover it up
The sheriff of Broward county got removed by the governor for his massive incompetence
And the senate agrees
As did multiple school board members
But the sheriff is still crying about it
And lost a lawsuit
Andrew Pollack, father of Meadow Pollack, seeks justice for letting Cruz get this bad and get this far
And then got arrested in a property dispute with his neighbors
G*merghazi is insufferable and should be shot
- 12
- 30
For context, Alex has a bunch of mood and eating disorders and will swing from obese to anorexic multiple times per year. She's also a rightoid who screams at the camera about how much she hates fatties, poorcels (including her middle class mother), brownies, strags, etc. Also she made a bunch of money selling jewelry to ppl who followed her insta/yt for her rants.
- 56
- 38
Why is dating so much harder now than in the past? What Changed?
Was dating just as hard 40 years ago?
Is it that women work and have careers now so they aren't reliant on men? When less women worked, their life was dependent on looking pretty and finding a man. Now they can support themselves. Is that why it's impossible to find dates?
Finding out what changed in that time may help point to a solution to the male loneliness epidemic that is really hurting men right now. Men used to be the gatekeepers for relationships but now women have that and they are being withholding and borderline cruel. It is really damaging men and I think we need to come up with why it happened and how to solve it.
- 11
- 21
Arab Forces….
— FM (@FM1947PAK) April 27, 2024
Arabs have shown themselves to be useless at fighting
A Muslim force without Turkey, Pakistan or Iran would be pointless https://t.co/5gcHBwi6f6
Muslim twitter is just endless nationalist bickering, they all feel very strongly about countries thousands of kms away so it provides an endless series of permutations and combinations
If you believed that you'd be an atheist by this point tho
- 44
- 56
Anonymous 04/27/24(Sat)No.35565446▶>>35565650
35565327 #
rdama has a pretty big contingent of center-left reddit refugees who will upvote pro-trans content despite being too ignorant or apathetic to actually make the arguments themselves. It's ripe for trans propaganda especially if you can speak in a more down to earth chud style like the way tranners do here
- 33
- 50
It took $1.7 million to build a public toilet in San Francisco.
— Richard Hanania (@RichardHanania) April 28, 2024
After a scandal, someone from Nevada volunteered to do the installation for $140K, but the city didn't know if it could accept because Nevada was one of the 30 states it was boycotting over LGBT. pic.twitter.com/MUYQrpLOVn
- 1
- 9
Top Drama
Score | Post | Subreddit | Ratio | Comments |
---|---|---|---|---|
🔥🔘🔘🔘🔘 | More feedback | /r/EscapefromTarkov (919K) | 54% | 2843 |
🔥🔘🔘🔘🔘 | A cool guide equality, equity, and justice: breaking it down differ... | /r/coolguides (5M) | 67% | 1549 |
🔥🔘🔘🔘🔘 | J.K. Rowling writing Harry Potter at a café in Scotland in 1998 | /r/HistoricalCapsule (65K) | 63% | 1313 |
🔥🔘🔘🔘🔘 | Am I the jerk for breaking up with my girlfriend because she wanted... | /r/AmITheJerk (16K) | 49% | 649 |
🔥🔘🔘🔘🔘 | Why do people say Eminem is a guest? | /r/hiphop101 (952K) | 55% | 385 |
🔥🔘🔘🔘🔘 | The election was poorly run and there were so many "irregularities"... | /r/Conservative (2M) | 55% | 316 |
🔥🔘🔘🔘🔘 | Northbourne needs fewer car lanes and more room for bikes: Pedal Power | /r/canberra (98K) | 56% | 282 |
🔥🔘🔘🔘🔘 | New Body Double DLC just dropped. I'm calling this one Fat Biden. | /r/conspiracy (3M) | 53% | 257 |
🔥🔘🔘🔘🔘 | One in three BBC journ*lism scheme trainees are white Britons | /r/unitedkingdom (3M) | 47% | 221 |
🔥🔘🔘🔘🔘 | lost ark is so much better than every other ARPG | /r/lostarkgame (292K) | 49% | 192 |
Relative Drama (takes into account the size of the subreddit)
Score | Post | Subreddit | Ratio | Comments |
---|---|---|---|---|
🤓🤓🔘🔘🔘 | Am I the jerk for breaking up with my girlfriend because she wanted... | /r/AmITheJerk (16K) | 49% | 649 |
🤓🔘🔘🔘🔘 | J.K. Rowling writing Harry Potter at a café in Scotland in 1998 | /r/HistoricalCapsule (65K) | 63% | 1313 |
🤓🔘🔘🔘🔘 | Downtown Minneapolis recovery has been best in North America over l... | /r/altmpls (5K) | 50% | 33 |
🤓🔘🔘🔘🔘 | They really did our girl dirty | /r/The_Black_Tower (8K) | 59% | 64 |
🤓🔘🔘🔘🔘 | RANT - It is not the onus of viewers to engage in ethical consumpti... | /r/BabyReindeerTVSeries (11K) | 47% | 46 |
🤓🔘🔘🔘🔘 | Thanks Todd | /r/Fallout4ModsXB1 (12K) | 51% | 43 |
🤓🔘🔘🔘🔘 | Why shouldn't I be racist | /r/rspod (17K) | 50% | 60 |
🤓🔘🔘🔘🔘 | hybe vs mhj has turned into a bts hate campaign | /r/kpop_uncensored (26K) | 54% | 88 |
🤓🔘🔘🔘🔘 | Downtown Recovery: Minneapolis third worst in nation. | /r/altmpls (5K) | 51% | 14 |
🤓🔘🔘🔘🔘 | More feedback | /r/EscapefromTarkov (919K) | 54% | 2843 |
autodrama: returning jobs to dramautists. Ping HeyMoon if there are any problems or you have a suggestion